Dear Advice Blog,
Sex hurts, what do I do?
With my first it never hurt. We were only rough a few times. But still it never hurt.
Now with my current boyfriend, who is my second, it never stops hurting.
He likes it rough and dry. It hurts but I enjoy it.

But now, every time we have sex rough or slow it hurts like hell.

Condom or no condom.
Lube or no lube.
Dry or wet.
Slow or fast.

We have even gone weeks without having sex so maybe
I could heal a bit but nothing is working.

We have tried a lot of positions already.
Still they all hurt and on my side hurts the worse.

He is the first guy that I have has condomless sex with.
And it has hurt since the very first time we did it.
So I really don’t think its an std, but I wont rule it out.
Nothing is off or painful after sex, its just sex itself.
But I know some STDs don’t have symptoms.

He is about the same size as my first. A little shorter.
But he is far thicker then my first. I have thought about that,
But we have been having sex for 3 months now, you think I would
be use to his size already.

Dear BlackJellyBean,
I would recomend to take a break from sex just so you can kind of heal, then try it out again and if it is still hurting ask your doctor what you can do to enjoy sex without the pain.